Tuesday, December 15, 2009

poor girl...

and it's all my fault. sunday night chris and i were putting the girls down for bed, he was changing simone's diaper (reason #932 we need to get her potty trained) on the changing table and i was hanging up all of their clothes in the closet... i shut the door hard, since our doors are so old and heavy they always require a big push to get them shut. well, long story short i shut the heavy door on simone's toe (i had no clue she could even reach the door from her changing table) and she cried and so did i and she told me through her sobs "it's okay mommy" and it broke my heart like it's never been broken. without going into to much detail her baby toe on her left foot was pretty much split in half and instead of stitching it, they took the front part off leaving her without a nail or nail bed. did i mention how terrible i feel and how i cried for two hours straight while chris took her to the er. and you should know that my simone is probably the sweetest little girl on the planet.

see for yourself...

on the left, enjoying her powdered dounut just minutes before the ordeal and on the right, when she got home :( don't
mind the black sock?!?
this mom business can be really tough sometimes.

oh and if you have any suggestions at all on how to get a 2 year old to keep a bandage on their foot... please, please let me know.

15 comments:

Elyse said...

OH so sad, such a brave-sweet girl you're raising. She must get that from someone, and its probably you. I'm sure every mother has a story like that. We are so not perfect, sigh. Wouldn't it be easier if we were? And I would say straight bribery works like a charm =) stickers, lots of stickers. Good luck!

Desiree Fawn said...

Oh gosh, what a brave girl! Don't worry mama, she'll be fine -- and you will be too!

And yes, I was going to say stickers too!

SHILLIG4FAMILY said...

poor girl and mom!

maybe a cool sock to wear over the bandage? I bet you and your craft sister could whip something up she'd want to wear over that bandage...

Heidi (Todd) Broberg said...

My husband just broke his toe 2 days ago playing soccer with the kids in the house (kicked the table) I was feeling so bad for his sick looking toe...but your story breaks my heart and I dont even know that sweet little girl. Being a mommy is hard, but you know your a good one because you care so much and because she cared enough about YOU to tell you it was ok...sweet little girl!

Rach said...

find some cute tights, that way she cant get to it!
thats what i have to do for my 2 year old, she hates socks and shoes:)

TX Girl said...

I would say tights too and maybe at night footie pjs.

I know there isn't anything to really say that will make you feel better. I hope she mends quickly and I wish the same thing for you.

.caroline armelle. said...

poor little girl! she really is a sweet little thing!

i hate when things like that happen.
hope the two of you feel better real soon!

noelle said...

oh my gosh - totally heartbreaking.

Through the Looking Glass said...

Well, I shut my then two year-old's finger in our bathroom door a year ago, and like you, I slammed it extra hard because she had been up to mischief in the bathroom and I shuttled her out quickly and angrily before slamming it. Her little pinky looked like ground beef, and once we took her to the hospital, they assured me that fingers and toes on little people are very pliable but very quick to recover.

One of my other daughters, also when she was almost two, shut her finger on the hinge side of the heavy fire doors at the library and actually cut the entire finger off from the top knuckle. I grabbed it from the door jam, put it in a bag with ice, and held her gushing, sobbing self on the floor in my arms until the ambulance came. The finger was reattached and grew back perfectly, if not for a minor irregular edge on her nail.

I tell you all this to say that my kids have had countless injuries, especially appendage associated, and they've all recovered as if nothing happened. My middle daughter also had to wear a bandage/splint for 4 weeks and it was almost identical to the set-up Simone seems to have. We had a lot of discussions about keeping the wound safe, clean, and protected from bumps. In the end, with both kids, the doctor assured us that after the first initial days or weeks, as long as it's kept clean and away from bacteria-laden places (pools, standing water, public floors and handles) they'd be fine if the bandaging came off a little.

Now, for the guilt: Oh, how I feel your pain. I too sobbed when I shut my baby girl's finger. There is nothing like a hurt child, but when you are unintentionally a part of that, there is no limit to the guilt. My words of comfort are that she's certainly forgotten, if not immediately, any role you played, and that your love and tender comfort far surpass the brief instant of pain she endured. You seem like a truly warm and loving mother, so 2 seconds won't even make a dent.

Good luck - and as a mother of four under 9, let me say brace yourself for more to come. It truly NEVER ends!

AnnieC said...

Amy: My heart breaks a little hearing about your experience...I am so sorry that happened to you and your lovely daughter. In the beautiful words you post on your blog I know how much you love both of your girl's and I'm so sorry the accident made you cry. Simone is so brave! Blessings and Light in ABUNDANCE over the next few days for you and your family.

Rachel

sarah marie. said...

love the black sock. and i know how hard it is to be a mom when your baby is sad. remember today when oscar cried in his crib?

Erin said...

poor monie...and poor you! I can't even imagine!
She looks 5 (and beautiful) by the way.

becky said...

okay no fun! but, could the picture on the left be any cuter??? seriously! the expression in her eyes is priceless. she loves her mama...

Smellyann said...

Aw, poor you and poor baby!!!

When my son was about two, I was giving him a haircut and I snipped right through his EAR!!!! OMG, I ran around screaming my head off, and he barely cried. I still want to cry thinking about it.

It's hard when our kids get hurt, but when we do it?!! Hell.

jane said...

so sad. what a sweet little girl, i hope you are both feeling better soon!

by the way, i contacted "caitlin creer" from the listing you had for her as a sponsor. she's great, and going to help me with a few projects around my home that I just don't seem to be making the time for.

i was considering offering sponsors to advertise on my blog too, if you don't mind me asking, do you have any advise? what are the going rates?